"Molly, do you ever wonder why people are drawn to each other?"
I was asked this question yesterday, and to be completely honest, it really threw me off-guard. Not just because it was asked by a guy (which right there just tells you something), but because for the first time in a long time I truly wondered why. Of course, this has run threw my head before. I think a lot of us have struggled with this question for a long time. What makes us drawn to one person over another, even if they do have similar attributes? Why are we drawn to what we are drawn to? And to go a step further, how and why can we be drawn two completely opposite types of people?
As I walked around campus today, listening to the clock tower play Christmas carols and watching couples hold hands walking in the cold to class, this question hit me harder than ever. And this is what I've come up with.
There are so many components to attraction and being drawn to a person, but I'm not sure if they're necessarily the same thing. I know that there are times I've been really attracted to a guy, but really, that can be chalked up to me just liking the way they look, what they do, how they talk, etc. But being drawn to someone...it's on a deeper level. It's magnetic, almost. And sometimes you can be drawn to someone that you would never expect to be drawn to.
Attraction is explainable and usually it's obvious why you are attracted to someone. In Philosophy, we've study the art of love and attempted to answer the forever old question: "What is love?" And although attraction is mentioned, every text or discussion we had always dealt with something more than that. Brain chemical such as dopamine? Sexual drive? Attachment? All of these were debated, but one thing we never really talked about was the possibility of just being drawn to a person. Why is that? Do we constantly have to have a clear cut explanation for everything? Or can we accept that there are some things, like this, that can't always be black and white?
With that stated, can we even connect being drawn to a person with love? I'm sure in some way they overlap, but I'm not sure they're the same thing. There's so much grey area with both topics that it's almost impossible to get anything of true clearness laid out. Difficult, right?
My final analysis: There's a reason why you're so drawn to one person, something deeper than attraction, but not necessarily love. Something that puts that person above others like them, or not like them. And the only way you're going to find just exactly what is different is to follow that pull, that draw, that almost magnetic force. Basically what I'm saying is that sometimes I think we get so caught up in the logistics of a situation like this that we forget to watch it play out. Not much a clear answer, but hey, this is grey area. :)
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