Texting: The Girl's Perspective

 With our new-found desire to blog, my friend Cody and I both want to address certain situations and concerns from a girl and guy's perspective, hopefully giving insight not only to the grand total of maybe two people that will read this, but also to ourselves. And our first topic of discussion: texting.

 First let me state my overall opinion of texting: it's a necessary evil. I'd much rather actually hear someone's voice and inflection while having a semi-serious conversation, because sometimes things just come off wrong and then a fight arises that has no legitimate foundation. And that just creates an enormous amount of trouble that never should have happened in the first place. But alas, I do text, and a particular text message that I received last night spurred all of this thinking.

Girls, how often does a red flag shoot up in our heads when we receive a text from a guy just saying "K" or "night" or "whatever"? This is when that alarm starts resounding in your mind that something is not right. Not necessarily between you two, but in general. Now girls, how often do we ask what's wrong and the guy says "Nothing"? That's when we begin to believe it's about us, and that the reason they are saying nothing is because they just don't want to tell us. So then, us as girls get all crazy-analytical and blow everything out of proportion because that's the way our minds work. If "nothing" is wrong, then how much harder is it to put "ok" or "goodnight" or, well, I don't think there's any excuse for "whatever". But seriously, that's what we're thinking. "Geez, (insert boy's name here), how much more difficult is it to stick a smiley face in the message so you don't send me flying off the handle in one of my girl fits."

Truth of the matter is, it boils down to something much more simple than ridiculous implications in texting. It all comes down to the fact that when a guy get short with us, we feel like we don't matter to him. And texting is just one example of this. It represents something so much bigger in a girl's mind. I'm not saying it's rational or even okay, but it's how most girl's mind's work. We see the little stuff as signs of the really important stuff, like how much we matter or what he's thinking about us. 

 Guys probably have no idea that little, stupid things like this are regarded (most of the time unconsciously) with so much esteem. They probably think they're just tired and don't see it as a big deal. And girls, we should try to think of that the next time we flip out about a dumb text message. And other things as well. Think about how many little situations and comments we freak out about. We do need to cut guys some slack, but at the same time, this is what we do. It's like it's programmed into our DNA; the female gender as a whole over-analyzes. And sometimes, that freakish intuition can get us out of some bad spots, at least I've learned that over the past couple of years. 

 So, my overall comment on this whole issue...Guys: Just remember that girls use symbolism in their relationships. The little actions and comments you make stand for the big things that can't be said. Girls: Guys don't think the same way we do, and we're not going to be able to figure them out. And if anyone ever does, please share your knowledge with me. 

Molly